“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are”
Not lost. Just between chapters.
Most people don’t come to coaching because something is broken.
From the outside, their lives often look successful, stable — even enviable.
Yet inside, something feels off. Energy fades. Engagement thins.
They begin to sense they are going through the motions of a life that no longer fully belongs to them.
What they are experiencing is not a problem to fix.
It is a transition.
Change is external.
A new role, a loss, a disruption, an ending.
Transition is internal.
It is the psychological process that unfolds when the way we have been living no longer fits who we are becoming.
Sometimes change triggers a transition.
But often — especially for people who have been competent and successful — the transition comes first.
They have quietly outgrown the life they built.
Something familiar loosens.
Old strategies stop working.
Identities that once made sense no longer quite hold.
Then comes the in-between — a disorienting phase where clarity has not yet arrived, but the old maps no longer apply.
This is often the loneliest part.
There is little language for it.
From the outside, nothing seems “wrong.”
Yet inside, vitality drops, effort increases, and life starts to feel oddly distant.
I support leaders and professionals in making sense of where they are in this process — often for the first time.
Not by pushing for answers.
Not by rushing decisions.
And not by optimizing performance.
But by helping them stay present with what is unfolding, long enough for coherence to return.
When transitions are understood and respected, something important happens:
Efforting gives way to ease.
Action becomes more natural.
And what people call “transformation” emerges — quietly, almost inevitably.
Science-backed coaching methodologies
Personalized, hands-on guidance
A track record of successful client’s transition
Earlier in my life, during my wife’s battle with leukemia, I experienced a profound sense of being out of choice.
What I could not change, I had to live through.
Only later did I understand that what felt like a decisive personal transformation was, in fact, the completion of a much longer developmental transition — one that had been shaping me well before I had words for it.
What Jung called the unlived life was not something to chase.
It was something asking to be recognized.
Today, my background in engineering, leadership, and psychology allows me to hold space where complexity is welcome, ambiguity is not rushed, and clarity is allowed to emerge in its own time.
This work is not for those seeking to do more, better, or faster.
It is for those who sense that the next chapter of their life will not come from effort — but from alignment.
If you are in transition, you will likely recognize yourself here.
I live near The Hague in the Netherlands, surrounded by my wife and three cats since my three children left to study at university. Every day, I am grateful to do the work I love, and as I continue my own transitions, I am also invited in the ones of my clients.
Where are you in your transition?
