𝐅𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐄𝐟𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐄𝐚𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠

2025 was a testing year for me.

I lost my mother.
I helped my father regain independence.
My work with the UN was disrupted.
And I experienced the empty nest as my youngest child left home.

At the same time — not coincidentally — I was reading 𝑾𝒊𝒍𝒍𝒊𝒂𝒎 𝑩𝒓𝒊𝒅𝒈𝒆𝒔’ 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒌 𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒏𝒔𝒊𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏. It gave me language for something I had already entered.

What I lived through was not just a reaction to external events.
Those events accelerated a developmental transition that had begun earlier — one that was already underway beneath the surface.

This matters.

Because there is a difference between:

𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬, triggered by external change (loss, disruption, role shifts), and
𝐃𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐥𝐨𝐩𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬, which arise internally and eventually require changes in how we live, work, and relate.

Last year, external changes made an internal process impossible to ignore.

What was happening 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐞 since 2024 became something happening 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐞 in 2025 — not because the circumstances improved, but because I could finally see, name, and integrate what was already unfolding within me.

Over the years, I’ve noticed something consistent — in my clients and in myself:

People in transition are rarely lost.
They are rarely incapable.

𝑻𝒉𝒆𝒚 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒅𝒊𝒔𝒐𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒅 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒂𝒖𝒔𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒚 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒕𝒘𝒆𝒆𝒏 𝒊𝒅𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒕𝒊𝒆𝒔 — 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒓𝒚𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐 𝒇𝒖𝒏𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒂𝒔 𝒊𝒇 𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒂𝒍 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒆𝒅.

This year, I’m sharing a short series on transition.
Not as a model to follow, but as a mirror to recognize yourself.

We’ll explore four territories:

• 𝐄𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐭𝐞𝐫
• 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐈𝐧-𝐁𝐞𝐭𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐧
• 𝐀𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐃𝐨𝐨𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐍𝐞𝐰 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐭𝐞𝐫
• 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐍𝐞𝐰 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐭𝐞𝐫

These are not stages to rush through.
They are psychological landscapes to be acknowledged, respected, and lived — because this is how maturation actually happens.

If you’re in one of them, you won’t need convincing.
You’ll recognize it.

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