๐๐ก๐๐ง ๐๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐ฅ๐ซ๐๐๐๐ฒ ๐๐ง๐จ๐ฐ โ ๐๐ฎ๐ญ ๐๐ซ๐๐งโ๐ญ ๐๐๐๐๐ฒ ๐๐๐ญ…
Most people in transition donโt come to see me in coaching because they lack insight.
They come because theyโre standing next to something they already know โ and arenโt yet ready to let change them.
Knowing, contrary to what we think, is not a single moment of insight. Itโs a process โ one that can be interrupted, postponed, domesticated.
We can glimpse a truth without allowing it to shape our actions.
We can suspect without concluding.
We can name without committing.
Psychoanalysis calls this ๐
๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐. It is not denial. It is not ignorance.
Itโs the quiet move of saying: โI see thisโฆ and I wonโt let it fully matter yet.โ
The signal is felt, and what it would mean is held at bay.
This is how people in transitions stall:
The job no longer fits, but the exit is postponed
The relationship has run its course, yet they remain in it.
A truth is named, but no decision follows.
๐บ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ and it is visible from the outside.
The question underneath is rarely rational; it is instead a very emotional one:
๐พ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ฐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ โ ๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ โ ๐๐ ๐ฐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐?
Disavowal instead buys time. It also keeps us living as we are, long after weโve outgrown it.
This is the work I see in my clients during transitions.
And if Iโm honest, itโs work I recognize in myself too.
So Iโm curious:
๐ What do you already know about your next step โ but arenโt yet ready to let shape your life?
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